For Parents & Educators

Signs to watch for

One sign alone isn't cause for alarm. Look for changes that last two weeks or more, or several at once.

• Pulling away from friends, family or activities they used to enjoy
• Changes in sleep — much more, much less, or up all night
• Changes in eating or noticeable weight change
• Falling grades, skipping school, or trouble concentrating
• Irritability, anger or tearfulness that's new or lasting
• Talking about feeling hopeless, worthless or like a burden
• Giving away belongings or saying goodbye in unusual ways

If a young person talks about wanting to die or not being here, take it seriously and ask them directly. Asking does not plant the idea. Call or text 988 for guidance, or use the Need help now? button.

How to start the conversation

1. Pick a low-pressure moment. Driving, cooking or walking together beats a sit-down "talk."
2. Lead with what you've noticed. "You've seemed really tired lately and I've been thinking about you."
3. Ask, then wait. Silence is fine. Resist filling it with advice.
4. Reflect back. "That sounds exhausting." Validation comes before solutions.
5. Offer a next step together. "Would it help to talk to someone? I can help set that up."
6. Keep the door open. If they shut down, say "I'm here whenever" — and mean it.

What not to say

"You have nothing to be sad about."

Sadness doesn't need a reason to be real. This closes the door.

"It's just a phase."

It may pass — or it may not. Either way, they need support now.

"Other people have it worse."

It adds guilt to pain. Pain isn't a competition.

"Just think positive."

If it were that simple, they would have already.

"Why didn't you tell me sooner?"

Say "I'm so glad you told me" instead. You want them to come back.