Extra support
Self-harm
You deserve care for what is underneath the urge - without shame, punishment, or graphic questions.
You do not have to handle this alone
If you feel unsafe or might hurt yourself, open Need help now? and connect with a crisis counselor or emergency support now.
Find someone to talk toWhat it is
Self-harm means intentionally hurting yourself as a way to cope with overwhelming feelings, numbness, self-criticism, or a need for release. It does not always mean someone wants to die, but it is a sign that more support is needed. This guide does not describe methods.
What it can feel like
An urge can feel intense, private, or hard to explain. You may feel relief and then shame, or worry that nobody will understand. Having an urge does not make you attention-seeking or bad.
“I did not need a lecture. I needed someone calm enough to stay.”
What can help
Move toward another person and away from anything you could use to hurt yourself. Tell someone directly that you are having urges and need them to stay with you. Use your safety plan, grounding, paced breathing, or another non-harmful way to ride out the peak while help is coming.
When to get help
Tell a trusted person or professional about any self-harm or urges. Get urgent medical care for an injury or if you cannot stay safe. If you might act now, use Need help now? or contact emergency services.
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